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Please note that the Connected Recovery™ (formerly Coupled Recovery) model continues to develop and change and therefore current handouts may differ as the model shifts. Updated versions of the handouts and worksheets will be released at regular intervals to allow for updates to the handouts and the addition of new handouts.
Connected Recovery™ Handouts
Five Principles of Connected Recovery
Three Phases of Connected Recovery
Relationships with Escape Patterns and Abuse
Phase 1 – Early Recovery (Facing Hope, available here, walks clients through Steps 1-5 and includes full-sized, full-color versions of each handout in those steps)
Step 1
Trauma Triangle – Safe-Harboring
Connection Between Trauma Cycle and Escape Cycle
Effect of Sexual Escape Behaviors
My Three Circles – Relational Relapses
Step 2
Plan for the Day of Disclosure Worksheet
Disclosure Process for Betrayers Worksheet
Disclosure Process for Partners Worksheet
Please note: detailed directions for the disclosure process are in the Connected Recovery™ Disclosure Booklets. Booklet A is for betrayers and contains directions on writing the What Letter, the Why Letter, and the Amends Letter, as well as how to receive the Impact Letter. Booklet A can be purchased here. Booklet B is for betrayed partners and contains directions on writing the Impact Letter and receiving the What, Why, and Amends Letters. Booklet B can be purchased here.
Step 3
Choosing the Relationship Escape Behaviors
Choosing the Relationship Trauma Responses
Step 4
Step 5
Contributing Factors Worksheet
Phase 2 – Middle Recovery
Step 6
Indicators and Triggers Worksheet
Step 7
Substance Use Timeline Exercise
Step 8
Step 9
Communication – Call and Respond
Step 10
Phase 3 – Healthy Sexuality