Handouts

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Coupled Recovery™ Handouts

5 Principles of Coupled Recovery

3 Phases of Coupled Recovery

Relationship Diagram

Relationship with One Escaper

Relationship with One Escaper and Abusive Partner

Relationship with Abusive Escaper

Relationship with Two Escapers

Relationships with Escape Patterns and Abuse

Phase 1

Phase 1 Steps

Step 1

Trauma Cycle

Survival Responses

Karpmans Drama Triangle

Dependency Continuum

Dependency Pendulum

My Trauma Cycle

Escape Cycle

Trauma Loop

Escape Spiral

Connection Between Trauma Loop and Escape Spiral

Escape Vortex

Effect of Trauma Responses

Effect of Sexual Betrayal and Gaslighting

Step 2

Steps for Disclosure

Plan for the Day of Disclosure Worksheet

Disclosure Process for Betrayers Worksheet

Disclosure Process for Partners Worksheet

Shame Voices From the Past

Processing Shame Worksheet

Faulty Core Beliefs

Step 3

Accountability contract

Recovery Plan Worksheet

Choosing the Relationship Escape Behaviors

Choosing the Relationship Trauma Responses

Boundaries

Communicating Boundaries

My Three Circles Escape Behaviors

My Three Circles Trauma Responses

Levels of Physical Connection

Step 4

Time Outs

My Time Out Protocol

My Time Out Worksheet

Fear Cycle Worksheet

Step 5

Check Ins

Check-In Worksheet

Contributing Factors Worksheet

Amends Worksheet

Phase 2

Phase 2 Steps

Step 6

Recovery Slope

Emotions Chart

Maslows Hierarchy of Needs

Emotional Bucket

Bucket Filler Worksheet

Indicators and Triggers Worksheet

Step 7

Attachment Styles

Motivational Boxes

Genogram Activity Directions

Trauma Egg Directions with Example

Trauma Timeline Exercise

Life Events Timeline Exercise

Deception Timeline Exercise

Substance Use Timeline Exercise

Step 8

Johari’s Window

Johari’s Window Relationship Levels

Relational Currency

Step 9

Call & Respond

Hula Hoops

Relational Three Circles

My Three Circles

Step 10

Steps to Empathy

Phase 3

Phase 3 Steps

Step 11

Healthy Sexuality Is

Sex Can Meet Three Different Needs

Step 12

Common Contributors to Sexual Trauma

Accelerator and Brakes

Sexual Abuse

Sexual Abuse in Relationships

Effect of Abuse on Sexuality

Arousal Non Concordance

Definition of Betrayal

Effect of Betrayal on Sexuality

Objectification

Healing the Trauma

Sexual Timeline Exercise General

Sexual Timeline Exercise Betrayed Partners

Step 13

Self-Image

Redefining Language

Step 14

Self Exploration

Arousal Template

Step 15

Steps to Healthy Sexual Connection

Creating Emotional Safety

Defining Sexual Success