Coupled Recovery™ currently includes two sets of books along with a book of the handouts and diagrams connected to the model.
The Coupled Recovery™ disclosure process is explained in a set of three booklets that walk betrayers and partners through the process step-by-step. This model applies to any level of betrayal, ranging from a single affair to extended patterns of behavior. The process includes four letters: the What & How letter, the Why letter, the Impact letter, and the Amends letter. Letters one, two, and four are written and presented by the betrayer, while letter three is written and presented by the partner. Booklet A is for betrayers and Booklet B is for partners. The first section of each is almost identical and explains the disclosure process in general, including three handouts, one of which breaks the betrayer’s part of the process down into bullet points, another breaks the partner’s process down into bullet points, and a third that explains how to set up the presentation of each letter and what to do on the day of the disclosure. The booklets differ from that point forward.
Booklet A walks betrayers through how to write and present the first two letters, how to receive the third, and how to write and present the fourth. As there are several timelines and exercises that may be helpful for betrayers, a separate booklet, the Exercises Booklet, includes those exercises. I recommend partners not read Booklet A or go through the Exercises Booklet as the questions and exercises may be unnecessarily triggering.
Booklet A can be purchased on Amazon here.
The Exercises Booklet can be purchased on Amazon here.
Booklet B details the process for partners, explaining how to prepare for and receive the first, second, and fourth letters. Partners are walked through how to process through the stages of grief and write an Impact letter. Every handout and exercise recommended for this process are included in Booklet B, so no additional material is needed and partners need not go through all the questionnaires and exercises developed for betrayers. Note, the Impact letter writing process can be used for any Impact letter, not just one connected to the disclosure process.
Booklet B can be purchased on Amazon here.
All handouts currently connected to the Coupled Recovery™ model (with the exception of the Pre-Disclosure Questionnaire and the Sexual Timeline Exercise for Betrayers, which are both in the Exercises Booklet) are available in color in Coupled Recovery™ Handouts: The Complete Collection. The book was printed in 8.5 by 11 so worksheets and diagrams can be easily photocopied and written on (but not altered or used for commercial purposes). The handouts are divided by phase and step, which is detailed in the Table of Contents. Page numbers were deliberately left off to allow each handout to be used individually. Please note that the Coupled Recovery™ model continues to develop and change and therefore current handouts may differ as the model shifts. Future editions of the handout book will be released at regular intervals to allow for updates to the handouts and the addition of new handouts.
Coupled Recovery™ Handouts: The Complete Collection will be available for purchase on Amazon soon!
Additionally, most Coupled Recovery™ handouts (with the exception of some of the handouts and exercises in the disclosure process) are available for free in black and white on the Handouts page of the Knowlton Counseling website here.
Recovering Connection Series
The Coupled Recovery™ process will be detailed in a series of five books, set to be released within the next two years. Three of those books are geared towards the recovery process in general. One book addresses early recovery, which includes discovering truth and creating emotional safety. Another focuses on middle recovery, helping individuals and couples deepen empathy and connection. The third book in that trilogy looks at late recovery, helping individuals and relationships heal sexuality after betrayal or abuse. The other two books in the set include one that addresses surviving abandoned betrayal and one that helps parents know how to talk to their children as the parents go through the recovery process. As each book becomes available, links to purchase them will be provided.
Book 1, Facing Hope, is currently in the process of being published.